On this page, you will find some excerpts of the book
Many Facets of Love

Age In The Spirit World

Many religions teach that a soul takes on their optimum age, i.e. around about the age of 30 years of age, when in the spirit realms. To an extent this is true, as all signs of age, such as wrinkles, grey hair, baldness, painful crooked limbs etc all disappear, unless, you like a bit of grey, or baldness. You can project your preferred image! Generally what is left, is the inner beauty and wisdom of the soul. However as a soul grows in wisdom, and evolves, so to does the outer expression, that is to say, that the soul is essentially the same in appearance, but grows more mature, more developed, minus the wrinkles of course. The wisdom and therefore the love that emanates from these souls, is such that to the onlooker, especially from an earthbound point of view, where time is part of our understanding, we would naturally interpret that wisdom as age, and yet, there is an unmistakable inner beauty and glory.

Retribution

I was watching one of those debate type chat shows on T.V. It was entitled “I can’t get over being mugged” In the audience of course were many angry and bitter people, who had suffered at the hands of a mugger, or had a loved one who had been. In the audience also was a young man who had been a mugger. He had committed the crime with the help of a friend on two occasions. It was obvious to me that this young man really regretted doing what he had done, and had come onto the show (a very brave act on his part) to try and do something toward making amends, by discouraging others from doing the same as he had.

I say that he was brave, because all of the people, who had been victim to a mugging, targeted all of their anger and bitterness at this young man. He didn’t try to defend himself, but kept saying that he was sorry, and that he had learned his lesson. All of his body language was that of a contrite man, but the victims of muggings (not at the hands of this young man) were too angry and bitter to believe he meant it. Of course what he did, and many others just like him, is wrong. These people do need to be taught a lesson. But if we are the victims of their crime, we are not the appropriate people to judge the nature of the punishment and lesson required. I understand that the victims of crime feel much pain, anguish, fear and a desire for justice. That is only normal. It goes with the experience. But when justice becomes a desire for retribution, something different is happening. When fear and anger are held on to for years, when they dominate your life, distortion and corrosion set in. We will never forget the painful and terrifying experiences that happen in our life, but we shouldn’t allow them to cripple us. During the T.V show, many people said that not only could they not forget their experience, but also then they went on to say that, they could never live a normal life again. They would live with their fear for the rest of their lives, and other similar statements. But why? Why be a victim all of your life? Why let one bad experience control and manipulate you and spoil the rest of your life? Why set yourself up to attract more of the same, or similar in the future? (Several people commented that they had been a victim of mugging on more than one occasion). Do you have to wear a label marked VICTIM for the rest of your life? Of course not, you can take it off, if you want to. The choice is yours, and you have freewill. Of course it will take courage. It may not be easy; perhaps you will need some kind of therapy to help you achieve freedom, but what a triumph. Just think of what you can gain!

Perhaps you hope the mugger will suffer, if they know that you are suffering and that your life is ruined? Where is the mugger now? Long gone. They may not see you again. If they learn from their mistakes, it will probably be from their memories playing on their mind, not by your continued self- punishment of fear and dread that they will be unlikely to see.

Many people do not realise that to hold on to fear, anger and resentment is to keep yourself a victim. What you give out, you get back, eventually, because as I have said many times, like attracts like. If you light a fire, it burns. When you add more fuel to it, it continues to burn. When you stop feeding the fire it will eventually go out. It’s the same with our thoughts. The more you think fear, the bigger your fear gets, and the bigger your fear gets, the more likely you are to attract fearful events into your life, not to mention the misery that your fearful thoughts cause you at the time. When we think negatively we are laying ourselves wide open. By the same token, thoughts of bitterness and anger set you up for corrosion and distortion. Gradually your physical body starts to deteriorate, you become ill with disease. You are sick and tired of the fear and the misery running through your mind. Anger and bitterness destroy the beauty of who and what you are.

When you keep thinking hurtful angry thoughts about the mugger, you keep reliving the experience. Before long you are in a prison of your own making. The more thoughts you give out, the more negative energy you attract back. Everything is amplifying. You are constantly miserable you feel crippled and broken. You tell people “ the mugger did this to me”. Compassionately I would say I’m afraid you are wrong. Whilst the mugger gave you the initial experience, you are the one who continues the humiliation. In all experience is the opportunity to grow and learn spiritually, whether it was an experience we needed to have, or not, (we put ourselves through much unnecessary torment) But how you react to the experience after the event is entirely up to you.

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